Breastfeeding Basics Real Talk for First Time Mums

Breastfeeding Basics Real Talk for First Time Mums

At KJ Essentials for Baby we know that becoming a parent is equal parts magical and messy. And when it comes to breastfeeding no question is too small or too silly. For something that is often labelled natural it sure does not always feel that way. So if you are a first time mum navigating the wonderful and sometimes weird world of feeding your baby you are in good company.

We have rounded up your most common breastfeeding questions and picked the brains of our favourite lactation consultants to give you the real answers with zero fluff just facts and a big warm hug.

What Does Breastfeeding Feel Like
Let us be honest breastfeeding feels like nothing else you have ever experienced. Think vacuum style suction a strong tugging sensation and a baby who seems to have superpowers in their tiny mouth. It may feel strange at first but your body will adjust and so will your baby. Give it time and go easy on yourself.

Is Nipple Soreness Normal
Yes especially in the early days. Your nipples have never worked this hard. Some dryness and tenderness is completely normal while you and your baby figure it out together. But if you see cracked skin flaking or anything crusty it is worth checking in with your doctor or lactation consultant for peace of mind.

Why Does Latching Hurt So Much
If it hurts it probably means something is off with the latch. Try using the cradle hold and make little adjustments to how your baby meets the breast. A small shift can make a big difference. If you are still uncomfortable try changing positions until you find one that feels right for both of you.

What Is a Shallow Latch and Why Does It Matter
A shallow latch means your nipple is not far enough into your baby’s mouth. This can lead to soreness and leave your nipple looking flat or squashed. The deeper the latch the more comfortable the feed. Aim for cheeks pressed in close and a chin nestled into your breast.

Can You Actually Get Better at Breastfeeding
Definitely. Breastfeeding is a skill and like any new skill it takes time. Learn about different feeding positions before baby arrives so you have options ready to try. If one does not work switch it up. What works for one mum might not work for another and that is completely normal.

What Is a Flange and Why Should I Care
If you are planning to pump you need to know about flanges. This is the part of the pump that goes on your breast. Getting the right size is everything. Too big and you might feel pain and swelling. Ask for help finding the right fit so your pumping experience is comfortable and effective.

How Do I Get the Perfect Latch
Here is what lactation consultant Joelleen recommends
• Sit comfortably and try a relaxed cradle or side lying position
• Make sure your baby’s body is lined up with yours with head and spine in alignment
• Their mouth should be wide open with the nipple pointing toward the roof of their mouth
• Their chin should be pressed into your breast and cheeks touching

Can I Breastfeed Lying Down
Yes and it can be life changing during those late night feeds. Use pillows to support your back hips knees and your baby’s legs. Make sure you are both secure and comfortable before starting the feed.

What Is Paced Bottle Feeding
If you are bottle feeding expressed milk this method helps slow things down to match a breastfeeding flow. Hold the bottle more horizontally let baby draw the teat in themselves and pause for breaks. This is a gentler more responsive way to bottle feed.

Does My Diet Affect Milk Supply
Absolutely. Breastfeeding uses up energy and your body needs an extra 300 to 500 calories a day. Stay well hydrated breast milk is mostly water and aim for balanced meals to support your supply. Avoid dehydration and alcohol which can both lower milk production.

Bonus Tip The Right Baby Products Make a Big Difference
At KJ Essentials for Baby we are here to make your life easier with practical and beautiful baby products that support your feeding journey. Whether you need a quiet silicone pump a nipple balm that actually works or a thoughtful baby gift for a new mum we have hand picked everything with care. Our range is designed to help you feel confident and calm as you find your feet.


Breastfeeding is not always easy but it is always worth asking for help. Every baby is different every body is different and every journey is uniquely yours. You are doing great and we are right here cheering you on.

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